Take Off the AirPods: The Best Couples Therapy Podcasts (and When It’s Time to Step Into the Room)
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Take Off the AirPods: The Best Couples Therapy Podcasts (and When It’s Time to Step Into the Room)

There’s a reason so many of us love relationship podcasts. They let us eavesdrop on honest conversations about love, conflict, and connection- without having to schedule a session or say anything out loud. For some, podcasts are an easy way to reflect on their relationship; for others, they’re a lifeline during the “roommate phase,” when the spark has dimmed but the care is still there.

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How to Know When It’s Time for Couples Therapy
Relationships & Family Therapists of New York Relationships & Family Therapists of New York

How to Know When It’s Time for Couples Therapy

You don’t need to be on the verge of breaking up to go to couples therapy. In fact, the earlier you go, the easier it is to get back on track. But how do you know when it’s time?

Let’s be honest—most of us don’t wake up one day and say, “You know what would really help us right now? A stranger with a doctoral degree listening to our fights.” We usually wait. We tell ourselves it’s just a rough patch. We hang out with Google at 1 am, asking things like "how to stop arguing about mental load” or “why doesn’t my partner initiate sex anymore?”

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Be Your Own Couples Therapist: The 5 Relationship Books That Almost Count as Therapy 
Relationships & Family Therapists of New York Relationships & Family Therapists of New York

Be Your Own Couples Therapist: The 5 Relationship Books That Almost Count as Therapy 

Explore 5 expert-recommended relationship books that can help improve communication, intimacy, and emotional connection—like couples therapy, but DIY.

So, your relationship could use... a little tune-up. Maybe you’ve been arguing about the same handful of things for five years. Maybe one of you thinks “quality time” means doom scrolling on two separate couches. Maybe you just want to feel like you're on the same team again, not opposing legal counsel.

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Feeling Uncertain About Your Relationship? Discernment Counseling Can Help.
Relationships & Family Therapists of New York Relationships & Family Therapists of New York

Feeling Uncertain About Your Relationship? Discernment Counseling Can Help.

Feeling Uncertain About Your Relationship? Discernment Counseling Can Help.

Are you and your partner standing at a crossroads, unsure whether to stay together or part ways? Do you find yourselves asking, “Should we break up or give it one more try?”

Has one of you emotionally checked out, while the other is holding on?

If you’re in this space of uncertainty, Discernment Counseling might be the next step for you.

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Mastering the Art of Conflict
Relationships & Family Emily Pedowitz, Psy.D. Relationships & Family Emily Pedowitz, Psy.D.

Mastering the Art of Conflict

Most people don’t look forward to fighting with their partner. Conflict with your partner can be painful. However, if done effectively,  it can also create positive change and help you and your partner learn more about each other. As a couples therapist, I consistently witness the power of increased understanding and compassion that comes from fighting.

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So You’re Thinking of Trying Couples Therapy
Relationships & Family Emily Pedowitz, Psy.D. Relationships & Family Emily Pedowitz, Psy.D.

So You’re Thinking of Trying Couples Therapy

The process of initiating couples therapy can be particularly daunting. Not only are you entrusting a total stranger to share your most intimate and difficult internal experiences with, but you’re doing it with your partner. Often, this is the person who matters the most to you, and right now, the relationship may feel rocky. Let’s take a second to honor this. Coming to couples therapy requires a real leap of faith that this therapist may be able to help you and your partner and bring you to solid ground. To assist with this leap, I’ll address a few of the biggest blocks couples face in beginning treatment.

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Time Outs: The Secret to Healthy Conflict
Relationships & Family Annabelle Moore Seife, Ph.D. Relationships & Family Annabelle Moore Seife, Ph.D.

Time Outs: The Secret to Healthy Conflict

Believe it or not, arguing can save your romantic relationship. Differences are inevitable in intimate relationships and conflict provides an opportunity to harness healthy aggression to clear the air and make space for growth. More relationships die by ice than by fire— meaning the bigger danger is disconnection, not conflict. However, not all arguments are created equal. Studies show that fights filled with contempt, stonewalling, criticism, and defensiveness erode relationships. Learning to fight well is key in lasting relationships.

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