When to Quit Self-Helping and Start Therapy
You’ve been doing the work. You read the books. You’ve journaled about gratitude. You’ve downloaded the meditation apps and listened to the podcasts. You’ve maybe even yelled affirmations at your bathroom mirror.
And still… you feel stuck.
Welcome to the moment many of us hit: when self-help hits its limit. When journaling about your inner child just turns into a list of “stuff I should probably talk to a real therapist about.”
That’s not failure. That’s progress.
Are You Codependent, or Just Deeply Committed to Not Being a Burden?
A Psychodynamic Take on Codependency, With a Wink and a Quiz
Somewhere between "I'm just a really caring person" and "I'm emotionally fused with my barista" lies the tender terrain of codependency. And while TikTok might call it a vibe, psychodynamic theory offers a deeper lens.
The Myth of the Together Person (and Why Your Lists Aren’t Helping)
You look like you’re doing fine.
You’ve got a system—sort of. You keep things moving, mostly. But behind the scenes?
You stare at your inbox like it’s a haunted house.
Your to-do list isn’t a list. It’s a self-replicating anxiety machine.
You avoid opening mail because one envelope might break you. And when you finally sit down to start? Suddenly it feels urgent to alphabetize your spices like your future depends on placing paprika in its perfect alphabetical spot.
Letters of Support: A Trans-Centered Guide to Surgical Consultations
Letters of Support: A Trans-Centered Guide to Surgical Consultations
If you’re a trans or non-binary adult in New York preparing for gender affirming surgery, chances are someone has told you: You’ll need a letter. That phrase alone can stir up anxiety, anger, or just a deep sigh. This “mental health letter” can be a hurdle, or worse—like you need someone else’s permission to make decisions about your own body.
This guide is for anyone navigating the mental health letter requirement—what it is, why it exists, and how it can be approached in a way that centers your needs and affirms your experience.
Why Am I So Hard on Myself?
Why Am I So Hard on Myself?
Your inner critic isn’t the enemy. It’s a protective voice that learned its job long ago. With curiosity, reflection, and the support of a therapist— especially one trained in psychodynamic therapy— that voice can loosen its grip.
Why Am I Struggling to Get Things Done? Understanding Executive Functioning and How Coaching Can Help
Have you ever looked at your to-do list and felt like your brain just short-circuited? You know what needs to get done—but somehow, the day slips away, and the list remains untouched. Maybe it’s missed deadlines, running late (again), or realizing you’ve been so locked in on one task that suddenly it’s three hours later and everything else has fallen by the wayside. Or maybe it’s the opposite: just thinking about your to-do list gives you a pit in your stomach, and you don’t even know where to start. That constant, gnawing feeling of falling behind—no matter how hard you try—is exhausting.
Strategies for Responding to Imposter Stress
Have you ever felt self-doubt, fraudulent, or wondered if you are as competent or qualified as others perceive you to be? Believe it or not, these feelings are quite common, especially among high achieving people who have a hard time believing in their competence. These feelings and thoughts often arise when we begin something new, step into a new role, and enter environments that invalidate aspects of our identity. Here are some practical suggestions for how to respond to imposter stress.
The Power of Self-Compassion in Parenting
I’ve noticed a trend through my work with new parents: New parents tend to be much more critical of themselves compared to their friends and peers who are exhibiting the same or similar parenting behaviors.
Understanding and Managing Mom Guilt
Picture this: You are all ready for your first night out in over six months, but just as you get to the front door you start to feel an uneasiness in your stomach, a tightening in your chest, and a heavy heart. You start to wonder if your baby will miss you, if your partner will feed her correctly, if maybe you should just stay home…
Cue the mom guilt spiral.
Changing Your Relationship with Anxiety with ACT
So how exactly do we save ourselves from this anxiety riptide? The answer lies in changing our relationship to our anxiety, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT (pronounced ‘act’), can help us with this.
The Good Enough Mother: Interrupting Perfectionism and Fostering a Healthier Relationship to Parenting
In parenthood there is often a desire and pressure to get it right, but not just right, perfect. The perfect schedule, the perfect educational toys, the perfect amount of independent play versus structured play, the perfect sleep schedule, the perfect amount of screen time, the perfect weight, the perfect latch, and so on, and so on…
Simple Grounding Techniques
While it is important to understand and feel our emotions, not every occasion is appropriate or useful for doing so. You can use these simple grounding techniques to help you detach from emotional pain that isn’t effective for you to feel in the moment. Grounding techniques work by shifting your attention and focus to something other than the difficult emotions or thoughts you are experiencing.
Dating: Not for the Faint of Heart
Dating, especially in New York City, is not for the faint of heart. This is one of the most discussed topics for our single clients. We caught up with Dr. Nadia Nieves for her advice on how to deal with some common dating concerns we hear from our clients.
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